Everywhere you turn these days whether it’s on the internet, social media, magazine, or everyone hashtagging, someone, as their relationship goal.
My father always has a saying not because the water look still doesn’t mean it’s not trouble, he was trying to say it’s not everything that looks good on the outside look good on the inside. Not everything on the surface is always what it seems. Everyone is picking from celebrities to friends and even stranger as their relationship goal but tend to forget people are not showing you everything that goes on in their relationship from the good, the bad, and the ugly only the glitter and gold.
No relationship is perfect, every relationship has its problem just like a car and you have to put the work in progress to fix it. So when you are picking someone to look up to pick someone who shows you their relationship flaws from the good time to bad and how they work to fix it, not someone who hide the open wombs with a bandage and pretend like an actor to the world until they can’t anymore and you become dumbfounded when they announced they are breaking up or having a divorce.
Be your own person, stop setting your Goals base on others. What might work for that person might not work for you? I see a lot of people posting relationship-goals, fitness goals, motivational-goals and etc, how about your own damn goal. Stop looking and living through someone else Goals, set your own.
Sometimes the person who you’re looking up to as relationship-goals, fitness, goals whatever it may be, is not showing you the skeleton in the closet just the pretty stuff on the surface, and deep down inside they are miserable or in hell.
You want someone to drive you how about your self. You can set your own goal just like that person you are admiring. Look for inspiration from other not Goals. Goals are ideas envision and commit by someone to be an accomplishment.
They take the time to put in the work to bring forth, you don’t know how must work they put into this Goal, you don’t know how much sleepless night or tears were shed to accomplish this. You want a Goal how about first setting your Goals and bring forth to existence.